A reflective essay on femininity as a meaningful and skilled practice. The author explores how beauty, makeup, and personal styling—often dismissed as frivolous—are actually forms of labor, creativity, and cultural expression. Inspired by RuPaul’s Drag Race and beauty influencers like Minkey Mothabela, the piece reclaims femininity as a labor of love, rooted in resourcefulness, artistry, and resistance against shame. Citing feminist history and voices like Kathy Peiss, the post challenges outdated critiques and celebrates the transformative power of beauty work.

Beauty Is Work: The Labor of Love Behind Femininity

I used to think beauty was shallow—something done for the male gaze, or worse, to distract from “real” accomplishments. But somewhere between binge-watching RuPaul’s Drag Race and revisiting feminist history, I realized: femininity is work. It’s skilled, intentional, and yes—sometimes a labor of love. This isn’t just about lipstick and lashes. It’s about reclaiming power through self-presentation, honoring the creativity in “frivolous” things, and making peace with the parts

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I used to think beauty was shallow—something done for the male gaze, or worse, to distract from “real” accomplishments. But somewhere between binge-watching RuPaul’s Drag Race and revisiting feminist history, I realized: femininity is work. It’s skilled, intentional, and yes—sometimes a labor of love. This isn’t just about lipstick and lashes. It’s about reclaiming power through self-presentation, honoring the creativity in “frivolous” things, and making peace with the parts

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